A Single Life to Live

December 5, 2022
Blogger Schermerhorn probes the ups and downs of Christian singlehood in her earnest debut. After a gutting college breakup, the author embarked on a quest to understand the purpose of heartbreak, concluding that “God keeps us in waiting rooms so that He can advance His glorious plans for our lives.” Drawing on stories of “Biblical bachelors/bachelorettes,” the author extracts lessons about navigating singlehood, such as that one should not “let the weight of your circumstances crush you” but rather “use that weight to get stronger,” and become “the person that God created you to be.” Employing a bridge metaphor in which the reader is the road, the cars passing over are their short-term connections, and the bridge pillars are their community, Schermerhorn underlines the importance of maintaining strong social and communal bonds while looking for love. And instead of lamenting singleness, the unattached are urged to invest in strong Christian communities and seize the “opportunity to follow... dreams without the constraint of a relationship.” Schermerhorn’s vulnerability and directness are refreshing, and her practical advice and cheerleading about God’s timing should resonate with like-minded readers. Believers will welcome this down-to-earth take on single life.